The boys got to see a lot of grandpa through afternoon visits all summer, but we were also there to celebrate his birthday with the whole family!

The Sunday following our return we went downtown to visit The Franklin Institute again. Yes, we had already been there, but this time we were meeting a friend and his daughter! The last time all three of us were together was long before any of us had kids, so it was quite the momentous gathering.

Plus, there were parts of the museum the boys wanted to re-visit or hadn’t seen the last time. Aaron got really into the interactive exhibits. Afterwards we went out for pizza.

On my own, I was able to take a long lunch one day to catch up with a friend over sushi and an evening to have dinner with a friend in King of Prussia. It reminded me how good it feels to catch up with friends, and there’s no reason my social life in Philly is more active than in California. I have friends in California too! Time to be better about planning outings with friends.

Later in the week I put a pause on work for an afternoon and took the boys out to the nearby Churchville Nature Center to visit the butterfly enclosure. We’re members and they have a lot of great little events, but this was the first time we’d been out there this trip. It was definitely a warm day to be outside, but not as bad as some of the other days have been, and the mist they provide for the butterflies definitely felt nice!

We spent Friday evening at The Academy of Natural Sciences in downtown Philadelphia for their event around Haddy returning to Dinosaur Hall. It was fun to see their newly installed Hadrosaurus foulkii, but mostly it was a good opportunity to visit the museum with the kids after hours. Afterwards, we had dinner at Victory Brewing Company. I’d never been to this “new” downtown location, but the vibes brought me back to the dozens of times I visited their brewery in Downingtown.

Our final week in town was rather chill, owing partially to do with some work stuff really picking up and causing us both to work a bit more than usual. But we still did a couple family visits and dinners, and over the final weekend in town we made our way out to our local model train shop where we picked up a few goodies, including some light-up tracks. Unfortunately, that evening I tripped in our den while working on some stuff with MJ and sprained my ankle, and badly bruised my shoulder. Ouch. This is the fourth time I’ve sprained this ankle (amusingly, it happens every 4 years) so I skipped the doctor and just tended to it at home. Still, no fun.

Outdoor time throughout the summer was mostly water-driven pursuits on the lawn with the hose or water guns and balloons. However, our final week there the weather cooled down a bit and allowed the boys to spend a bit more time outdoors riding their bikes! They love doing this in California but often find it’s too hot to do during a Philly summer.

Overall, it was a nice visit, and the six weeks flew by. It also felt like the right amount of time for me. I was definitely ready to come back to home prime when the time came, and our journey back to California was uneventful.

Thankfully, our trip got much better from there! Thanks to MJ’s dad, we found Wheelworks over in Huntingdon Valley that was able to do a thorough detailing of the back of the van to get every molecule of milk out of it. And we ordered an all-weather mat to put in that portion of the carpeted floor so this doesn’t happen again. We also finally picked up a dresser for the boys so we could move their changing table upstairs now that diapers are largely a thing of the past. Aaron helped me assemble the dresser next to the old changing table that’s now being used for storage in their bedroom closet. The trip to Ikea for the dresser also gave us an opportunity to scope out some furniture for an “art center” to put in our kitchen for the boys and some cabinets for a server project we’re working on.

MJ’s father has come over several afternoons to spend time with the boys, which they’ve really enjoyed, and is the whole reason for us being here. We’ve also had a chance to catch up with MJ’s sister and nephew for dinner and house visits, including an evening that included a fire pit outside, which Adam won’t let us leave without doing again, this time with s’mores.

The boys have enjoyed catching the ice cream truck each time it comes through the neighborhood, and literally catching fireflies when we keep them up late enough for the fireflies to come out. One evening we also found a toad in the road that Aaron hilariously scooped up to help him cross it.

On our first full weekend here was a bit chaotic as we settled in, but then we went down to The Franklin Institute to visit the newly re-opened Heart and got to finally show the boys the Baldwin 60000 steam train that resides in the under-construction-for-years Hamilton Collections Gallery. The train used to move, but we learned that since it only could move a few feet the wear on the wheels was uneven and maintenance under those conditions was challenging. It’s still cool even though it doesn’t move, and the boys do enjoy a run through the Heart.

We saw a planetarium show, which Aaron continues to be unable to stay quiet during (thankfully, he does ask questions that are on-topic, and the person sitting next to us fell asleep in spite of his regular whispering, hah! We also made our way over to the Demonstration Theater to see the “Liquid Air Show” that Adam really enjoys, and this time didn’t disappoint.

The next day we drove out to New Jersey to have some pool time with our friends Mike and Jess and their two sons. The boys are getting really comfortable with water, which we’re really happy about. I’m hoping this translates to more security when it comes to their swim classes upon our return to California in August. It was great to catch up with our friends too, which only seems to happen about once a year, Facebook contact aside. The heat did get to me at the end though, so the drive home was a bit of a queasy one for me.

On the 4th of July we took a drive up to Kutztown for a visit the Crystal Cave. Aaron loves caves, and was left wanting after we took him to the cave/tunnel near the old San Francisco Sutro Baths for his birthday. Fair. This time we went to a real, natural cave! Plus, it’s a cave MJ had gone to with his parents when he was a kid, so there was the nostalgia and family connection factor there too, which was amusing to reflect upon as the tour guide through the cave mentioned that visiting the cave has become a family tradition for generations. Indeed! The story of the cave is an amusing one too; discovered in 1871 it was opened to tourism just a year later when they learned it was an otherwise useless limestone cave, but tourists might enjoy seeing it.

After lunch and the cave tour, we took advantage of the less humid, cooler summer weather of Kutztown to do through their mini-golf course. I’ve continued my streak of having enough focus/interest to complete about 9 holes really well, and then take a bored/distracted approach to the second half of the course. It’s a good thing I don’t play real golf.

Then we had some ice cream on-site and bought a big bag or rocks and sand with gemstones and fossils mixed in that they had a little “panning” area set up for. The boys LOVED that. As expected, Adam was very into the rocks and gems, while Aaron is still completely enamored with the fossils.

That evening we enjoyed some sparklers in the yard before getting to bed much too late, but that’s what summer is for!

On Saturday we began our serious New England trip prep. MJ had done a lot of the legwork to determine what would probably be needed to install the tow hitch on the minivan, so we had an appointment at a place in King of Prussia to get the work done. I drove out as well so we could spend the afternoon having a lovely (if too filling) lunch at Fogo de Chao and then a little adventure over at the mall. MJ and I both picked up some things we needed at L.L. Bean, and then the boys and I made our way over to the Lego store for… things we didn’t need.

Unfortunately, the hitch installation didn’t go well, and we had a multi-state adventure to get that completed ahead of us. The heat and overindulgence at Fogo also got to me that afternoon and I was flagging a bit by the time we all had to drive home. Still, part of the work was done and I was happy to have our new Lego treasures with us. But speaking of the car, MJ and Adam also had a project of installing a new rear view mirror on the new minivan. As high as it was, the trim level on our minivan didn’t have the buttons to open the garage, or auto-dimming for nighttime driving. Bummer. So we ordered the mirror from Kia and eschewed the dealer quotes for them to install it. It took more time and a few more panel removals than expected, but they got it done! Right in time for our road trip to New England that began on July 9th.

I had one last big event before out trip though, and that was presenting at the Philadelphia area Linux Users Group chapter that I was a member and organizer of years ago. It’s a great group of folks, several of whom I’ve known for decades, and I was there to give the latest about open source on mainframes. I started out with a Star Wars scroll parody with a mainframe theme (YouTube video) There was a lot of hardware geekery, but the gem of my presentation was definitely showing off zopen Community tools that bring familiar open source CLI tools to IBM z/OS Unix System Services (USS). I had a developer account that I was able to do a live demo with, and then several folks dove into the repositories during the meeting. It was a great night and I really enjoyed seeing so many old friends, and at the end I was surprised that one of the organizers had brought his son, who I hadn’t seen in probably 15 years? I babysat him once, he’s now old enough to be a software developer and attend PLUG talks now, wow! Also, cool. I couldn’t have thought of a better way to wrap up work and go on vacation than that.

We got in on a Friday night, and the next day the Churchville Nature Center happened to be having a day of activities for members. It was a nice, local thing to do with all of us feeling a bit tired. They had animal caretakers out with some of their snakes, reptiles, and turtles, and several activities for the kids to engage with. The boys got to touch a turtle shell and a snake skin, and they both were quite fond of the bearded dragon.

Over the week we lucked out with great weather, so the boys spent a lot of time outside with their au pair, but also enjoyed indoor activities and toys they hadn’t played with in a few months. I’m glad they were occupied, as I was in the midst of a very busy time at work with a major product launch on the horizon and two major projects I’m working on barreling in on their concluding phases. I wish I could have spent more time with family, but I was simply inundated. MJ had his best friend come into town, and even her I didn’t see much as I was sequestered in my office, and then working a couple late evenings while she spent time with MJ.

The next weekend we were fortunate enough to be in town for cousin Sammy’s birthday. Amusingly, it was at another nature center, so the boys definitely got their fill of local critters on this trip! Aaron got to pet a snake, hold a friendly cockroach, and feed a tortoise. Everyone got to enjoy beautiful cake made by Aunt Yilia.

Throughout our stay it was nice to have their grandfather stop by a few times to play with the boys, and go out with Irina and Sammy a couple times. One day we went to the library, where I worked from for a couple hours. Libraries continue to be a reading lifeline for me, as I was able to continue reading a large book I started on the west coast without having to haul it across the country, a quick search showed which nearby branch I could pick it up at without even having to do a transfer. And yes, I realize ebooks exist, I have a Nook and a Kindle! But it’s not my preferred experience.

On our last full weekend there I was clued into the Himalayan blue poppy blooming at Longwood Gardens, and we decided to make a day of it. Our kids love gardens and flowers, and I’m a big fan of the sprawling Longwood Gardens, having formed many pleasant memories there. It was about an hour long drive, but Adam and I hunted for colorful cars to complete a rainbow and Aaron took an unapproved nap. Disappointingly, it was too early in the season for any of the fountains to be on, but we did get to enjoy the tree houses and all the springtime blooms starting to come up.

And then there were the blue poppies. I’m not actually one to chase flowers, but these ones are breathtaking and difficult to grow, so I was really happy to get to see them.

It was my first time being in the area for children, because the last time we were at Longwood Gardens was nearly 7 years prior, when I was pregnant with Adam! They also redid the bonsai tree area since I last went there, so that was nice to visit. It was a tiring day for everyone with a lot of walking, but I think we all enjoyed it.

MJ and I got out on a rare date night while we were in town. The final Tuesday we drove down to Philadelphia to eat at Buddakan, one of our favorites. I made my way through a sake sampler and a cocktail as we enjoyed various dim sum dishes and a small steak. I’m glad we went and we enjoyed it, but I think when we visit over the summer we’re going to expand our options some beyond just our usual places. Surely some new, exciting places have opened that we have yet to experience!

On this trip I also discovered that my favorite bagel place in the world has a location just 20 minutes from our townhouse! Yum Yum Bake Shops was my go-to when I worked in Lansdale and wanted to ruin all the work I’d just done at the gym. Their bagels are chewy and perfect, and I haven’t managed to find that level of perfection since, especially not on the west coast. So, one morning I braved traffic down Street Road and made the pilgrimage. I also got a giant donut for the boys because I accurately predicted that they’d get a kick out of it.

Finally, this trip was notable because we had a new car. Well, a minivan. I’ll write about it soon, but we purchased it right before we left and then had it shipped across the country, since it needs to be registered in California (long story). This meant that for this trip, and over the summer, we’ll have two cars! It’s quite the indulgence, but it was good to have overlap. The Acura MDX has been a great car there, but with it hitting the 8th model year it’s going to need a California smog check unless we can get an exemption, and we can’t get that done in Pennsylvania. Two cars did mean that I had to spend some time cleaning out the garage, and then we had to squeeze both cars into the garage upon our departure. But they did fit! Even if it was very tight.

We took a Saturday afternoon flight home at the conclusion of our two weeks. It was a solid trip, and I’m grateful that we finally made it a visit without anyone getting sick or any other major calamities. It’s also starting to get a bit easier to travel with the boys, partially due to them getting unlimited screen time on flights and them actually starting to really love that perk. With each trip they’re also doing a better job of carrying their own backpacks and suitcases through the airport, which is a load off from us. Plus, diaper-free travel is a game-changer! I never want to change a diaper in a busy airport restroom again.

Because of how it moves around on the Gregorian calendar, there is always a chance that we’ll be spending part or all of Hanukkah in Philadelphia over the winter school break. It presented an interesting challenge, how do we give the big gifts like their new bikes if the bikes are in California during Hanukkah? And for smaller things, do we just plan on bringing a bunch of gifts home instead of keeping them at our vacation home? We got creative, and brought along an extra suitcase just in case we ended up bringing things home (we did!).

Now, one of the things about winter break is that the kids are home from school, so we revisited our summer strategies of keeping them occupied. During this two and a half week trip, our au pair also decided to take some much deserved vacation over New Years and so that left us with most of Hanukkah just the four of us, and nearby family. This year it began on the evening of Christmas, and with most things closed the boys and I got to work on making a bunch of sugar cookies from my family recipe. We quickly discovered that we don’t own a rolling pin (our supplies are rather limited there) so we used a water bottle. The cookies came out great, I forgot how much I like them. I ate a bunch.

For dinner MJ and I got Wawa hoagies and I tried my hand at making latkes. We purchased a food processor a few days before so I wouldn’t have to manually shred potatoes and onions like I did last time when I made them in California. What I didn’t think about much was oil, so I just used what I had: vegetable oil. I came to regret that decision. Turns out, using vegetable oil for latkes makes them cook much too quickly and I ended up with burned latkes, only a few of them were even edible. It also filled the house with an oil smell that lasted for hours. Thankfully, my second attempt at the tail end of Hanukkah was much more successful with Canola oil and lots of ventilation.

Also, we discovered that Aaron loves latkes.

We did some Hanukkah crafts, including a table runner that the boys enjoyed coloring and putting up some small lights around the house.

The boys fell in love with sparklers over the summer, so I joked about and then produced “Hanukkah sparklers” which we played with in the snow on the second night, which is also the night they were treated by grandpa coming over and doing gifts with them. This year we also gave Adam the opportunity to help with candles, which he was really excited about.

Of course the Hanukkah train came out too! The boys are treated with year-around trains in Philly now that we have a Lego train that we put together over the summer, so we temporarily put that one away so we could enjoy the more traditional model train.

Next year there’s a good chance we’ll be splitting Hanukkah between coasts, so that will be an interesting one!

We were greeted with snow! The boys had seen flurries before, but they’d never actually had the opportunity to play in the snow, and that was remedied with this visit. They shoved a little, tried to ride their bikes in it, and delighted in throwing snowballs at me. I made the mistake of shoveling the driveway because I was worried about ice, and that set back my recovery by a couple days, but it didn’t tear anything, which I’m grateful for. It did end up being bitterly cold for several days though, and I’m glad we had recently bought some winter coats for them both.

I took the last week of the year off to enjoy Hanukkah, which I’ll write about later, and go on some adventures with the kids. The first was to Fonthill Castle in Doylestown. First we stopped for brunch at nearby Cross Keys Diner and it was absolutely perfect, it was everything I love about little Pennsylvania diners. Then it was off to the castle! I had been to the sister museum, Mercer Museum, a couple of times, including with the boys two years ago. The castle was a whole new experience. The museum is a winding path of all kinds of collected items from the early 20th century, including a lot of every day things, offering a real snapshot into life back then. The castle is where Henry Mercer actually lived, building what was a farmhouse into a castle of concrete. It’s just as strange and whimsical as the museum, which unexpected discoveries at every turn. We happened to pick up a children’s book about the castle when we were at the museum the last time, so we had some idea what to expect, and it was fun to match up the photos and drawings in the book with what we were seeing in person.

The whole place was absolutely fascinating. I loved how natural light was so effectively used in places like the library and map room, since electricity was still rather new and most rooms would have been lit by a single light bulb. In one room he had real cuneiform tablets built into the columns from thousands of years ago that he picked up on his adventures around the world. We also did a little hunt ourselves after MJ read a Hanukkah display that mentioned he had a menorah tile somewhere in the house – we found it, on the ceiling!

Aaron got a picture of his stuffed dog, also a purchase we made the last time we visited the museum, by Rollo’s Stairs, a series of stairs that the dog had run through and left his footprints in while the concrete was still drying.

Upon completion of our indoor exploration, we took some time to explore the grounds. One of the photos from the book had the tree-lined driveway pictured, so we took a nice stroll down the driveway to experience it.

It was probably the warmest day of our trip, so the boys also enjoyed running outside in the grass around the castle, which also allowed me to get a few more photos of the whole castle in all its glory.

Since both MJ and I had off on New Years’ Eve, we took the opportunity to hop on the regional train down to Philadelphia, an adventure the boys constantly ask for. Our first stop was to see the Ice Dinosaurs exhibit at the Academy of Natural Sciences. We love this museum and Aaron really loves dinosaurs, so we knew it was a must on our visit downtown. It was a hit with all of us!

From there, we took a bus over toward City Hall for lunch at Iron Hill Brewery, and then walked up Market street to visit The SEPTA store to pick up a bunch of transit goodies, and also look at their exhibits. They have a full size PCC trolley in the downstairs lobby, and also various small exhibits scattered around. In front of the store itself there are a couple of model train displays to enjoy. From there, we walked up to City Hall, which I’d never actually walked through before, and then visited the outdoor Holiday Market still going on. I am certain it has shrunk since Christmas, but there were still several booths still set up and the boys got to watch people ice skating. Now they really want to go ice skating. Plus, MJ found a cannoli with vegan filling, so he could eat it! Turns out, you can do just about anything with enough oil and sugar.

We filled the rest of the week with activities like free building with Lego, which it turns out Aaron really, really enjoys, and Adam and I finished our first Light My Bricks build, which was a lot of fun. We started with a small car we knew we could finish on our trip and took the other kits (R2-D2 and Tantive IV) home with us to California to work on them here.

The boys are also enamored with science kits, so they received a few of them from their grandpa for Hanukkah. One of them was a volcano experiment that had you first make the volcano and let it dry for a few days, and then use it for exciting eruptions!

And the Friday before we left was an exciting day: The release of “Wallace & Gromit: Vengeance Most Fowl” on Netflix in the US! The boys and I have been so excited about this, and watched all the other movies leading up to it in preparation. So first thing on Friday morning we all snuggled up on the couch and watched. I even paused for a little while to write about it on my fan site!

Our evening on Friday concluded with a final dusting of snow and dinner at our favorite Italian place in town, a beautiful conclusion to the trip and a nice distraction from all the house close up tasks we had the following morning.

For the trip home, I was four weeks post-op and thankfully had the ability to handle suitcases to a limited degree. The pain was definitely still there, but the flight didn’t add to it, and we all got home safely and on time.

I mentioned that the boys had been earning badges from the local library through a free program to inspire kids to do challenges and activities. They each earned four badges, and it was a lot of fun for all of us. I’m not sure I’ve mentioned before how much I enjoy the library programs from the Bucks County library system, but their branches are incredibly kid-friendly and the play areas are more extensive than what I see in most of the San Francisco bay area. My sister in law Irina suggested it’s because there are more outdoor activities year-around in California, so there’s less of a need for a library on rainy or frigid days, and she may be right. The culture here in California generally seems to be more catered to adults and mature kids than young ones.

The Bensalem library definitely ramped up things for the summer, and Aaron particularly enjoyed a presentation from the Center for Aquatic Sciences where he got to pet a horseshoe crab.

In the evenings we also got really into some Lego builds. Aaron even helped out a little, but would mostly work on his creative Duplo creations while Adam and I focused on building a train, a firehouse, and a fire helicopter. I think we’re going to end up with a little Lego City there.

Seeing family is also obviously a big part of why we were there over the summer, so it was nice to head downtown one evening to have dinner with MJ’s cousin Lauren and her husband. I had met her husband once before, but only MJ could attend their wedding due to a bunch of unexpected circumstances last year. So it was our first time seeing them as a married couple. We met at Emmy Squared Pizza where I got the “Angel” pizza consisting of Truffleist mushroom cream, ricotta, mushrooms, and it was spectacular! I’m still dreaming of this pizza. And it was also great as leftovers. I think our only complaint would be that something went a little wrong with our order and we waited almost an hour for the adult food to come out, which made the boys a bit antsy as the evening wound down and they had finished their meal. It was nice to have the extra time to catch up though, and Adam got his wish of getting to see the sun set on the Philadelphia skyline so we could enjoy the beautiful nighttime lights of the city. He’s definitely my kid, I love those nighttime city skylines too.

In other family news, our regular visits with Irina and little Sam were a highlight of our trip. Sam and Aaron are roughly the same age, so it was nice for Aaron to have a summer buddy. One evening we were able to go over to their house to have pizza and catch up, and Aaron was absolutely enamored with her dog Maya, and both the boys enjoyed spending time with Olive the cat.

Animal-wise, our neighbors were rabbit-sitting, so one evening we went over there to catch up and get the latest neighborhood gossip while the boys got to play with the rabbit. Predictably, all of this has lead to a string of requests to get a pet. I really would love to, but we have a lot on our plate right now, and our extended visits to Philly definitely make having a pet tricky. We’ll see, I haven’t been pet-free in decades, and while the loss of Caligula still stings, the pull of getting another cat is getting stronger.

During our visit I also was able to sneak out one afternoon to meet with Kris, a former colleague from my Tyco days. We’ve loosely kept in touch via Facebook, but we hadn’t seen each other in over a decade. Some of my posts throughout the summer clued her in to the fact that we weren’t too far away from each other. It was a great to reconnect, and we’ve penciled in doing something more involved with the boys next time we’re in town.

The final Friday before we left we made our way back to the Churchville Nature Center for a moth-themed presentation and camp fire. It ran quite late, and I think the boys were on the young side to appreciate a lot of the introductory lecture, but they got to walk around outside at night, see some bugs, hear a screech owl, and finally roast a couple marshmallows over a camp fire. I did a lot of camping as a kid, but it’s hasn’t been something we’ve done yet, so it occurred to me that the boys hadn’t really experienced a camp fire before. What an oversight! There’s a campground not too far from here, maybe next summer we’ll spend more time in California and do a weekend adventure in a tent.

Our last day in town we did some final clothes shopping (tax-free in Pennsylvania!) and then turned picking up the rental car that we’d be taking to the airport the next day into one final adventure with a train ride to the rental car center at the airport. The plan had been for MJ and Adam to go down alone while Aaron and I went on our own adventures around town, but apparently there’s nothing more fun than taking a train, so we all went.

Some of my low-key stress around packing and preparing to leave bubbled up during our train ride, but I did my best to be present and enjoy the journey with everyone. I mostly succeeded until Avis was over an hour late with our rental and we had to sit at the rental car center trying to keep the boys entertained. I should have brought more snacks. Then the stress carried into Sunday as we closed up the house and began our journey home. I hope this gets easier as the kids get older, but I also need to keep working on strategies to manage this family travel stress, I hate that the conclusion of our visit is so tainted by such an elevated stress level when there were so many great moments throughout the summer.

Our first stop was finally visiting the Please Touch Museum. It’s a Philly classic in terms of children’s museums. We also discovered when making the plan to head down that it’s now located in Fairmount Park, having moved in 2008 from the location on 21st Street near the Franklin Institute, where I remember it being. The building it’s housed in now is Memorial Hall, the last major building left from the 1876 Centennial Exposition. The move seems to be a good one for museum goers, since there’s tons of free parking, and it was also great for us because it was right near Girard Ave and we also wanted to see the vintage trolleys that had recently returned to service.

Aaron had an absolute blast at the museum. At three years old, basically everything was perfect for him, and I’m sure he could have spent days there if we let him. Adam was a bit more reserved, but once he became comfortable he was able to enjoy some of the exhibits.

As expected, the transit-related exhibits were the most popular for both of them.

Aaron also enjoyed the play kitchen where he could “cook” things retrieved from the little grocery store in the area next to the cooking area. And after lunch Aaron got to enjoy a water area that I basically had to pry him away from once we were ready to move on.

The carousel at the museum was also a delight, Aaron and I rode on it a few times so he could switch animals.

We wrapped up at the museum in the late afternoon, and then drove a bit closer to Girard Ave so we could conclude our day by taking a ride on the Rt 15 trolley. Just like San Francisco, Philadelphia runs a vintage streetcar line, but this one had been shut down since 2020 and underwent a series of refurbishments and repairs. They just returned in June of this year! I’ve visited it before, years ago, but the boys never had the opportunity to ride on it and we wanted to remedy that.

Aaron adorably brought his trolley plushie along for the ride.

I think they enjoyed it, but they also had their eyes on buses and kept asking to take one of them too. So we took the trolley to the Broad Street stop, and took a look at the transit app to see our bus options. We lucked out, and a bus was subbing on the same line and would take us right back to where we parked! So we took Rt 15 back, this time on a bus.

The bus ride concluded our visit to the city, and both boys fell asleep in the car as we drove back home, so we clearly tired them out. A quick stop for dinner on the way home wrapped the day. It’ll probably be our last time down to Philadelphia proper this visit, so I’m glad we were able to experience a full, fun day.

I’ll start off by saying we were a little disappointed by a couple things: The Giant Heart that you walk through was closed for a massive renovation of the body exhibit and the Electricity exhibit was closed for the body renovation too… because the electricity exhibit is being retired in favor of an expanded body exhibit. We’ve done the heart and we’ll be back in the future, but the retirement of the electricity section of the museum is particularly gutting. I’ve been fascinated with electrical science and engineering as long as I can remember, and exhibits like the one at TFI were inspirational as a youth. It’s really sad to see it go away, especially at The [Benjamin] Franklin Institute, named after a founding father who is possibly most famous for his experiments with electricity. Ultimately, I hope the next generation of electrical engineers finds another way to gain inspiration, and this isn’t some sort of trend among science museums. The train exhibit was also closed, but we knew about that going in, it’s coming back in November.

But on to our visit! We may have gotten in for free, but then we did the paid add-on to see the Art of the Brick exhibit. It was worth it. Various pieces of Lego art were displayed around the gallery, including recreations of classical art, people and animals and dinosaurs, and a couple Philadelphia-specific builds, including The Liberty Bell and the statue of Benjamin Franklin that’s in the lobby of the institute itself.

The conclusion had a large area where the boys could free play with Lego.

The boys loved the displays, but also had a blast building Lego cars that they could then race down a little ramp they had set up. The exit was through the gift shop, where a final Lego set followed us home.

We grabbed some lunch at the on-site cafe before making our way around the rest of the museum. We went to a live show about combustion, which I was really proud of the boys for being so engaged with. We also went to our first planetarium show. We’d held off going because we hadn’t really brought the boys into dark places where they had to be quiet, and I knew it would be a challenge for both of them. It was. Aaron and I almost had to leave because as much as he loves space, he also loves talking and asking questions, and really struggled with staying quiet when he wanted to ask 100 questions about stars. Still, he managed to quiet down and we made it through. We’ll do more in the future!

Walking to the planetarium

The hands-on nature of the museum was a hit with the boys just like last time, and of course MJ and I enjoyed it too, I’m really glad we went.

The planetarium was also a nice segue into using our telescope on Sunday. The boys always want to use MJ’s old telescope, but it’s been really hot all summer, and with the sun setting so late, we haven’t wanted to keep them up late enough to really appreciate it. But one night the moon was looking particularly lovely and it wasn’t so hot, so I was able to get it set up for a peek. Adam was finally able to see the moon through it, and so did my phone! It needs to be cleaned, and astrophotography with a 30+ year old telescope and a smart phone is not optimal, but I was still impressed with how it came out.

On Saturday we did a make-up swim lesson in the morning and then went to a BBQ at a relative’s house in the late afternoon. It was family we hadn’t yet seen on this visit, so it was nice to finally get the opportunity. They have kids too, so there were lots of interesting new things to play with while the adults enjoyed catching up. At the end Aaron even got to play on their trampoline.

Sunday we went to Sesame Place with Irina and Sammy. It’s only 15 minutes from our place here, so it’s been on our radar for a long time, but I wasn’t sure what to expect. It’s next to a mall and I always thought it was an inexpensive Philadelphia-local little park. Turns out, it’s bigger and more impressive than I expected, but also quite expensive. It was bought by Sea World a few years back, and I’ve heard the prices have gone up as a result, and a lot of changes (good and bad) were made.

The first thing we noticed is that they were short-staffed, which is ridiculous on a Sunday in the middle of summer with what they charge for admission. We got on “Big Bird’s Bus Tour” after stashing our stuff in an expensive locker. From there we tried a water ride but failed because that turned out to have an hour+ wait because they only had a single life guard managing the bottom of the ride so only one slide was open. Several other water slides were closed entirely. The “Little Bird’s Bay” splash area was open, so we had fun getting soaked there and cooling off a bit before going to lunch.

Getting lunch was a disaster. It took a half hour for Adam and I to get a couple mini pizzas we ordered from the wildly chaotic lunch shop we went to, and then the bagged apple slices we got with his meal were super gross and slimy and I had to exchange them for something else. By the time we rejoined MJ, Aaron, Irina, and Sammy, they had finished half their meal and had a story of their own to tell about their poor experience. Even worse, they don’t allow outside food, so your only option is to leave the park and drive somewhere, or eat at these mediocre, expensive, on-site eateries. Boo. Irina then had to leave for Sammy’s nap, having only enjoyed a couple rides, though they did get to go on the carousel on the way out.

After lunch MJ, Adam, Aaron, and I ventured on. We decided to skip the huge Count’s Court water area in favor of some dry rides, figuring we’d come back toward the end for that. We did three rides over in Elmo’s World, I took the boys on “Peek-a-Bug,” all four of us did “Flyin’ Fish” and Aaron and I enjoyed going on “Blast Off” which is ride that goes up and drops you, but he LOVED it! Then everything was shut down. Storm clouds were rolling in and a thunderstorm threat made operations unsafe.

At this point, Adam was mad at me for skipping Count’s Court, since he really, really wanted to do more water stuff. As hundreds of people left the park, we had to think about what to do. It wasn’t raining yet, and chance of precipitation was 50-70%, so chances are it would rain and the rides wouldn’t resume. We decided to stay for the 3PM parade. The parade is definitely a highlight of the experience there! The kids seemed to enjoy it, and so did I.

After the parade we made one final lap, but with everything still closed we decided to leave. The gift shop is a real treat, I might even go back because it’s outside the park and open to the public. We got to the car with perfect timing as the rain suddenly began, and it was quite the storm, the entire drive home it was pouring.

In spite of the disappointments, I think we all managed to have fun and we learned a lot for the next time we visit. A friend of mine (who was actually there on Sunday and we missed because I didn’t see his text!) swears by getting a cabana as a home base for the day, and the season passes that include quicker access to rides. We’ll think about that next year. The water stuff is tricky unless we both go in with the kids, especially at Count’s Court because the boys are still a bit little to be without a parent right next to them in 3 ft water, and they flee in different directions when they get excited about water. Next summer should be better for that, and we’ll just both plan on going on the water stuff. For lunch we may even consider going off-site, since it likely would take just as long as trying to get it on-site and we’d get better food.

This meant I had some time to catch up on some reading and writing, even using my typewriters a bit! I was able to take long showers, leisurely get ready for my day, and enjoy hot coffee, all of which tends to take a backseat most days as I’m rushing around with work and kid stuff. I was on primary duty for all errands and picking up food, since MJ was still recovering from COVID, so it wasn’t all carefree time, but those were made easier by not having to rush around to squeeze them in before/after work. I also cleared out some of the garage of stuff we wanted to donate, going back all the way to 2016, including an ancient laser printer after learning that Staples does electronic recycling.

Taking this time for myself and projects was incredibly valuable. I’m reminded yet again that when I slow down and take a little time for myself, I become a much better partner, mother, friend, everything. I’m more patient and thoughtful and everything becomes easier, even the really hard stuff.

But all that was just half my day! The rest of my day was spent enjoying quality time with the boys.

On Monday morning we went to a local playground, and then to a nearby library that we’d never been to after we saw their sign advertising story time at 10:30AM. There, Gaby took Aaron to the story time with all the other kids while Adam and I explored the library, played a game, and found a couple video games to check out.

Tuesday we went over to the nearby Churchville Nature Center where we got a membership. I’d been trying to find something for us to do that was the right mix of local (not just generic kid stuff), not too far away, and that the boys would love. A nature center checked all the boxes, and this was a great one. We began indoors at several exhibits they have in their main building, including several live snakes and tortoises, along with a bunch of stuffed animals that were local and from across North America.

From there we went outside, where it was hot (it’s been hot all summer) but nice and shaded in their nature path.

Finally the gem of our visit: the butterflies! This is the one paid area of the center, and it was totally worth it. They help the butterflies through their breeding cycle by protecting them from the elements and keeping their chrysalises safe in enclosed little tents until they emerge.

On Wednesday we made our way out to our local library for play and story time, and then an outdoor chalk and bubbles event. Aaron enjoyed the story time with the other kids while Gaby and Adam explored the rest of the library. Once it was time to go outdoors, Aaron was the grand master artist just like he is in our driveway at home as he drew all over the entrance sidewalk to the library.

Most kids went Adam’s route and played with bubbles, which was a lot of fun, even in the hot weather.

On Thursday I got a sunburn. It wasn’t intentional, I just wasn’t diligent about reapplying sunscreen while playing in a pool for four hours. Said pool was at our friend’s place in New Jersey, and I’d been trying to get over to see them all summer, but they also have two little kids and getting good schedule alignment was difficult. We finally made it though! It was wonderful to catch up with my friends, but the boys also loved the pool. They’ve been doing swimming lessons this summer, but they hadn’t really had free-play time in a pool. As expected, they loved it, and my friends were prepared for having a couple new-to-swimming kiddos in the pool by blocking off the deep end.

I’m still tremendously disappointed that we couldn’t visit our family in Florida this summer, but this week with the boys has been one for the record books. Taking it slow, enjoying local adventures and time with friends. Growing up is not all about the big adventures, and neither is life. I only wish we could do more of this.

There was no way we could go.

I was gutted.

I haven’t seen several of the relatives we were planning on visiting in years, and most of them have never met Adam and Aaron. We spent weeks planning out who to see and when, where to stay, and making the puzzle pieces come together for a whirlwind week of visits and chill fun. Even the thought of trying to shift those plans, much of which had been made with a holiday weekend in mind, was overwhelming, especially on top of being sick. We canceled all our plans and sent apologies.

By Tuesday afternoon Aaron had a cough too, and Adam quickly followed suit. MJ somehow got a couple days of grace period, but by Thursday he was down too. This is our third time with COVID, and it is notable that this is the first time the kids actually got sick from it. By Friday our house was a cacophony of sniffles, coughs, and short tempers. Thankfully, it moved through our house swiftly and we’re all OK. No one had fevers for more than a day and aside from a lingering cough, the boys were better within a couple days. On Sunday morning I tested negative and was ready to rejoin society. MJ is the last one on the mend, but thankfully we already had taken the time off from work, so he’s had the opportunity to rest.

I feel bad about how the weekend went though. Since the boys recovered quickly they were clearly bored. What should have been the first real vacation we’ve taken as a family turned into being stuck home with a pair of tired, grumpy parents.

Still, I was feeling well enough on Thursday evening to take out the sparklers we bought earlier in the week and play outside in the heat with the boys to celebrate the 4th of July. Little sparklers are the only fire-thing my family ever did for the holiday, we were never the firecracker (or more) crowd, and so it was nice to share this with the boys. They were both a bit scared (it’s fire!) but Aaron eventually was brave enough to hold one, and Adam started coming up with ideas for setting up patterns in the grass where we could place them, but he kept his distance. As the sun began to set, we also started seeing fireflies on the tree line. We don’t have the opportunity to see fireflies much in California, so it was a magical moment for them, not having realized that the fireflies they’d seen in books and on TV were real things.

Friday I was well enough to take them outside and play in the water sprinklers on our lawn outside. I’m not sure I’ve mentioned how hot and dry this summer has been. The temperature has been soaring into the high 90s almost every day, making our outdoor excursions quite short. Still, the boys enjoyed the sprinkler fun and, for once, respected my request to not get me totally soaked. They did seem to understand “Mom doesn’t feel well, please don’t get me wet.”

Saturday night I was improved enough to grab a mask when we heard the ice cream truck and ruin dinner by getting the boys an ice cream in the early evening, hah! They actually did eat dinner though, and it was worth it anyway for the joy that a melting ice cream brought them on an otherwise disappointing weekend.

The big takeaway from this latest infection for me is the shift in how people feel about COVID infections. In spite of continued reports of the risks of Long COVID and vulnerable populations, it’s basically being treated like any other common infection now. I had people surprised that we had canceled our trip. One mentioned they just treat it like the flu. Apparently they’d get on a plane for a beach vacation with the flu? I knew that culturally we are a bit intense when it comes to working through being sick, but I wish we had come out of the other side of this pandemic more cautious and thoughtful. That was incredibly naive. We came out the same, with another disease to add to the pile of things we spread everywhere. I guess the only thing I’m grateful for is that in most places wearing a mask in public has become normalized. I now wear them when I just have a cold but have to go out somewhere. Colds aren’t fun either, I don’t want to share that!

On the family side, I always knew that living in California our opportunities to visit family would be more limited, but I certainly didn’t anticipate a global pandemic at such a critical time in the life of our family. Our line had always been, “yeah, we live far away, but we love traveling and we can afford to visit!” Suddenly the monetary cost is only one piece of the puzzle. As a result, having this vacation home in Philadelphia has turned out to be more important than we ever expected, the ability to have regular visits with MJ’s side of the family and develop a closeness with cousins is so important to us, and not something we could have done with week long visits from a hotel. As for visiting my family, that will always be more difficult, but we do hope to at least re-schedule this visit in a few months, or early next year at the latest.