The day after we got home, I grabbed tickets to Oakland Zoo Glowfari. The tickets for weekends tend to sell out quickly, and it’s busy, so I decided that we wouldn’t wait and would just grab a weeknight far enough before the December holidays that it wouldn’t be too crowded. So the boys and I went with Gaby, our new au pair Ana, and then their former au pair Rebeca joined us! It was a ton of fun, the structures are beautiful and there are a lot of them. The first area we explored was a future of Oakland-themed village which had all kinds of great Oakland landmarks, including the Tribune tower, the boot from Children’s Fairyland, and a Chabot Space & Science Center observatory.

Plus, they had a BART train you could go inside! And run inside, which the boys did, of course.

From there we walked through areas devoted to insects and African animals. Of particular interest to every kid there was a tile you could jump on to trigger a stink bug to spray “smoke” out of his rear end. Oh boy.

We then met up with Rebeca and got a bunch of great photos of the boys and three generations of au pairs. I’m really glad we were able to do that before Gaby went home! With Rebeca, we took the Gondola up to the California Trail to explore the ocean part of the Glowfari. Up there the bubbles filled with “smoke” were a big hit with the kids. They were pretty cool. We didn’t get to go on the Zoo train which gets you to even more light up goodies, but since just train tickets are required for that, I’m hoping that we can go with MJ some time in January to just do that.

I mentioned Gaby leaving, and that was a pretty big deal for all of us. She’s our first au pair to actually go home at the conclusion of her term (the first got married, the second stayed to go to school in the US). As a result, the boys still see their past au pairs! We’re really going to miss her. I think we got really lucky with our new au pair though, the boys immediately connected with her and she’s been great so far.

The following weekend we joined a bunch of other Bay Area Rapid Transit (BART) fans at Rockridge station for Sweaterfest. It was a whole little celebration with BART crafts and other related pop-ups with little activities for kids and photo opportunities. At the end, they took a big group photo with us in our sweaters! MJ wore one from when we attended a couple years ago, Adam and I had matching BART sweaters from this year, and Aaron donned this season’s BART winter hat (no shirts in his size this year). We got to ride the BARTmobile (a hilarious train with tires that use used in parades and other events), and managed to get in the group photo.

Inside the BARTmobile!

We checked out the craft table briefly and the boys got to jump around inside a big inflatable winter bubble. It would have been nice to arrive earlier since things closed fairly promptly around 3PM, but we still had fun, and it was probably for the best that we didn’t go on such a long adventure, did I mention December was very busy?

The next day, we went to the Great Train Show, which was set up at the Alameda County Fairgrounds. This is also an event we’d gone to before, I think it was last summer? Last time, MJ realized he knows one of the folks who regularly attends with one of the model train clubs, as they used to work together, so he likes to use it as an opportunity to say hello.

Plus, it’s a great place to shop for model trains to expand our Hanukkah train layout! Sadly, the engine on ours wasn’t working well. In spite of buying it just five years ago and only taking it out for the winter holidays, think it was dropped a few too many times by small kids. We brought it to the train show to test it on their test track, and that’s where it completely failed. We tried to get a replacement engine, which is lovely! But will take some work to get it going with our equipment. Still, the fellow who sold us the engine also had a really cute Hanukkah box car that we bought along with it. And maybe I’ll see if I can get our other engine repaired.

The boys also got to check out a couple of retired maintenance cars that are kept running by members of the West Coast Railroaders Group. Some people have boats and sail over water. Some people buy old rail maintenance cars and ride down tracks through beautiful forests. MJ spent some time talking with them as the boys kept themselves occupied by sitting in the cars and playing with the controls.

It was a fun afternoon, but I was tired. I had developed a sinus infection that was being treated with antibiotics, but I think what I needed was rest, and not a weekend full of train adventures,. I was also prepping everything for Hanukkah, which had me up on a ladder outside hanging Hanukkah lights during this time too, something I thought I’d skip this year but ultimately wanted to do because I love holiday lights. And prepping to come back to Philadelphia. It’s no wonder I was feeling worn out.

We’re in Philadelphia now, and while I didn’t take much time off of work through the winter holidays, I am grateful to be able to focus on more project work that tends to bring me more peace and calm. I’ll try not to overdo it activity-wise while we’re here. I think I’m finally over the sinus infection, but both my body and mind could use some time to relax and recharge. Maybe some time reading a book by the fire. We’ll see how that goes.

We also picked up some cake at the airport that he could enjoy on the flight. When we boarded, wearing his new birthday t-shirt, he also got to enjoy a quick little tour of the cockpit. Plus, the change in time zone means he had a 27 hour birthday. Not bad!

His actual birthday party was held on Sunday when we were all back home. Guest-wise, our previous au pairs, Rebeca and Gaby, joined us and our new au pair Ana. As requested, it was Paw Patrol themed!

It was a fun afternoon. Maybe next year we’ll extend the birthday to some kids Aaron’s age, but pandemic habits die hard, and it’s been a pretty busy season for all of us.

Aaron has been enjoying his new-found access to video games. He’s starting out with a Paw Patrol game and Mario Kart, but I expect he’ll quickly graduate to some more complicated ones. I’m super proud of how much he’s matured in this past year. He’s doing great in Transitional Kindergarten at the public school, and he surprises me all the time with what he’s learning and understanding about the world.

We arrived on Saturday night and were able to meet with my father in law for lunch the next day. MJ and I worked Monday through Wednesday while our new au pair settled in with the boys and started exploring the area with them (library! trampoline park!). As we prepared for the holidays, the boys and I set up the Hanukkah train (a vintage Lionel train) and put away the LEGO train we usually have out. When we were in town over the summer, we had stopped by Joe’s Train Station, our local train hobby shop, and picked up the Lionel Lighted FasTrack that we opened to use for the first time. Since our train is older, it didn’t come with modern FasTrack, and has a clip that went on the metal tracks, that also meant it didn’t have the standard power cable that’s often used. When I bought these lighted tracks, they also sold me the FasTrack Accessory Power Wire (6-12053) and I was left to figure it out myself. Thankfully, the model train community is very active! And eventually I found this post on Reddit helped me get the wires from my transformer connected the way they needed to be. I wish I had taken a better picture before I put the bottom plate back on, but it’s transparent so you can kind of see where I disconnected the power from where a plug would generally go, and replaced it with my wire. And then, voila! It works!

Well, it worked with some wires exposed and Adam was scared of being zapped (fair) so MJ put some connectors on the ends of the wires so we could not only more easily use the lighted track, but also switch back to the metal track easily. No more fiddly connections at all!

The light follows the train, now I just need to convince the boys not to put so many cars on the track at once.

Speaking of building things, the drawer on my desk has been unstable for a while, and finally broke entirely over the summer. I’ve been living out of some bins next to my desk, not optimal! MJ bought the wood and brackets needed to fix it, and the boys helped them with the repair this trip. Woohoo! A working drawer once again!

The boys have also been building a lot of Lego. I always thought that the skill levels for Lego sets were based solely on the complexity of the components involved, but we picked up a Bluey House set recently and there’s more to it. On the Bluey set the pieces are simple, but the instructions are also much more detailed and even show hands holding a specific piece and exactly where that single piece goes. I was helping Aaron (almost 5) build the house at first, but after a while he said he wanted to do it himself, and he did! So proud! Now he’s got the bug and wants to do a lot more.

On Thanksgiving we woke up and made Death Star waffles! And then I spent a big chunk of time in the afternoon making food for the potluck dinner we had at my sister-in-law’s house. I’m not much of a cook, but I could manage carrots, green beans, and stuffing, and everyone was quite happy with vegetarian brown gravy from a jar and cranberry sauce from a can. The dinner came together beautifully at her place and our usual chaotic family Thanksgiving was fun.

Being over there reminded Adam that she had a fire pit, so that’s how we ended up with an outdoor fire, in Philadelphia, in November. It was COLD! But I’m glad they got it going for him, they kids really enjoyed it.

As our visit wound down, we spent an evening at Astra Lumina, a nighttime walk through various light features in a forest in Jenkintown. We went with the parking option that used the shuttle, which we figured would be more fun for the boys anyway (yep!) and was a lot cheaper. The frequency of the shuttles made it quite a reasonable option. From there, we got to explore the lights! The boys love being outside and playing with lights in the dark, so it was a perfect mix of things they enjoy. It’s on the pricey side, but for us it was all worth it. Afterwards we had a great dinner at Vintage, a restaurant MJ’s grandfather was a fan of, and I had a spectacular seafood dish while Aaron fell asleep on the bench.

Following the weekend, it was back to work on Monday and then we packed up on Tuesday to fly home. If not for the kids going to school, we probably would have stayed through the winter holidays. Our next trip back east was just 15 days away.

That week my Aunt Mary Ellen and Uncle Joe were drifting through town following a conference in Napa and we made plans to meet up. The boys were excited by the prospect of a ride up to San Francisco, but then some plans shifted and it was rainy. We made the best of it though, instead of meeting up early for dinner, the boys and I took BART, MUNI
Metro, and then hopped on a Caltrain for a few stops before taking BART back downtown to meet for dinner. It was a lot of trains for what amounted to a big loop, but the boys have been asking to go on Caltrain for quite some time, and I figured this was the perfect opportunity. It was also a nice opportunity for us to pause and have some snacks since Caltrain is the one local train that they can eat on!

After the trains, I took the boys up to the roof deck at the condo (between tenants right now) to take in the gorgeous sights of downtown San Francisco at night. Adam actually gasped at the sight when we got up there. It really is beautiful.

We met MJ in the city and met my aunt and uncle for dinner at Fogo de Chao for a lovely dinner. It was really nice to see them, it was our fourth attempt to see them in the span of 18 months, which every other plan being ruined by illness (COVID, flu). We had a nice time finally catching up, and it was the first time that Joe was able to meet the boys, and the first time Mary Ellen met Adam. They boys did great, actually engaging in conversation rather than instantly demanding their phones for TV, which was nice. We definitely kept them up too late though, Aaron fell asleep on his chair toward the end, and they both zonked out in the car on the drive home. Carrying Aaron out of the restaurant, I completely forgot to get a family photo! Whoops. Next time.

The first week of November concluded by celebrating Gaby’s last birthday with us. I finally succeeded in making brigadeiro! With her help. And we picked up a custom cake that I had ordered the week before. Adam decorated, which is how we ended up with jungle animals on the tablecloth, hah!

We then had a rather chill Saturday that concluded by attending the Castro Valley Light Parade. It’s funny, we’ve lived in Castro Valley since 2018, but this is the first time I actually managed to see the parade! I was either working or traveling, and one year life with little kids meant we simply made it out of the house too late to see the parade. But I finally saw it!

Aaron got a light-up balloon that he swiftly asked me to hold (I’m glad we only got one!) and after about 45 minutes of parade the boys had enough and we walked out to our favorite restaurant just down the Boulevard. It was enough to get a nice taste of the parade though, and we really love enjoying events in town with the rest of our neighbors.

MJ flew out for a work trip later that night, so the boys and I had Sunday to ourselves as we did swim class, haircuts, and a trip to one of their favorite playgrounds. That evening, Aaron and I made banana bread for his monthly school project where he also got to draw the ingredients and take pictures. For a quiet weekend, it was surprisingly tiring!

We spent the week with normal life stuff, lots of school and work and random things like appointments, including a follow-up to check on Aaron’s infection (getting better!). The next day, he fell off his bike and landed on his face, earning him another visit to the urgent care. Thankfully, he was OK, having narrowly escaped getting stitches on his lip. Yeesh. Kids.

The next morning we were up bright and early for a Saturday morning garage sale! The boys and I go to a lot of garage sales, and Adam has been talking about his desire to have one of our own for over a year, but we’d never done one ourselves. We didn’t take the request very seriously because sitting in our yard for hours for a few bucks doesn’t sound like fun, but with Gaby heading back to Brazil soon she was looking to sell a bunch of things so she could have a lighter collection of things to bring home. Well, if Gaby wanted to do a garage sale, we might as well toss some of our things in too!

I don’t think I thought it through completely. Garage sales are actually quite a bit of work, from developing the listing online and putting signs around the neighborhood, to figuring out what we’ll get rid of. Then actually setting up, and then cleaning up when we were done! It was nice to get rid of a bunch of stuff, and the $100 we got for it was nice, but it wasn’t nearly enough to make me want to do it again any time soon. Next time we’re going to just make some donations, maybe sell the higher value things on a local Marketplace board or something. Don’t tell Adam, he’s already making plans for our next one.

That evening, we picked up our new au pair from the airport! She had a week of overlap with Gaby so she could settle in and get shown the kiddo care routines. I was grateful for all of this, since both MJ and I have been slammed with work lately, and it would have been a real challenge for either of us take off time from work right now.

The weekend wound down with a visit to our local Lego reseller shop where we all had some fun digging through Lego bins for a couple projects we have in the works (including one related to work which led to: “We have to go to the Lego store.” “Have to?” “It’s for work!” “I doubt it.” hah!). We also started prepping for our Thanksgiving trip to Philly and generally trying to get things in order for the winter holidays.

Mix in with all this, I’ve also been doing a lot more cat care than I expected. I haven’t written about it much here, but it turns out our beloved Zara came to us with a paw and tail wound that have been taking forever to heal. Her paw seems better now, but the tail wound became infected with MRSA and is proving to be a lot more stubborn. We’ve tried a whole slew of treatments which I’ll write about at some point, but it’s been a lot.

Still, she’s an absolute sweetheart who continues to love her wild human brothers, so she is still the right cat for us. Thankfully, as Gaby enjoys some vacation time before returning home, she agreed to watch Zara and take care of her, even taking her to a specialist vet visit that was really tricky the schedule. I hope she starts to heal up soon, but at least she’s in good hands while we’re in Philly this week.

One evening after school we went over to the pumpkin patch and handful of carnival rides that we can see from the highway. It’s expensive for what it is, with the rides all being pretty quick and forgettable, but I kept our activities within some clear parameters as we all had a good time, even if I still hate bumper cars.

A week before Halloween was the Halloween carnival at the elementary school. This is always a fun one for the boys, and it was the first year that it was Aaron’s school too! As usual, they had lots of little activities set up around the schoolyard to play and win prizes at. I really enjoyed the photographer who got a great picture of the boys and I (rare, since I’m usually holding the camera!) and I’m grateful that the pumpkins the boys picked out from the little pumpkin patch there weren’t too big for the walk back to the car.

Over the weekend we met up with my friend James at Hiller Aviation Museum. With MJ traveling throughout a chunk of October, it was nice to have another adult join me on a Halloween-themed adventure! In this case, it was a pumpkin drop from a helicopter, because, why not?

They had kids sign their name on the pumpkin that would be dropped, which was fun until Aaron realized the pumpkin would be completely smashed upon landing, along with his name. Oops.

They had Halloween-themed games and crafts set up throughout the space, and then a “Haunted Hanger” with a TON of spooky decorations throughout their exhibit space. We enjoyed making our way through the exhibits before the pumpkin drop, but we wasted no time getting outside in time to see the pumpkin get loaded into the helicopter and take off.

They had everyone stand behind a temporary fence and look away as little rocks and dust were kicked up during take-off, and then we all got to go over to the runway fence to see the helicopter actually drop the pumpkin. It did a couple loops before the drop and I have to admit, the actual drop was a little anticlimactic. We were close, but a pumpkin compared to a runway is quite small! Still, it was an amusing activity, and if nothing else the boys LOVED being so close to a running helicopter. Me too.

See that little dot? That’s the pumpkin.

The next day the boys and I glimpsed outside to see some gloom and potential rain, but there was another Halloween activity to get to! The park next to the school the boys go to was hosting a Halloween Make-a-thon where kids got to go to various tables to do crafts. It’s the first year they did it, and all of the volunteers seemed pretty overwhelmed with the constant flow of kids clamoring to do the crafts – even with the threatening weather! I suspect they need a bit more organization and volunteers next year, but I see a lot of potential.

As the event wound down, we went to the indoor space where I enjoyed making Halloween-themed magic wands more than anyone else, but Adam got to finish his scavenger hunt, which was quite satisfying for him. When we went to leave, the rain had finally showed up, so we waited a few minutes for it to calm down before our soggy walk back to the car, but thankfully we didn’t get too wet.

The final activity before Halloween was pumpkin carving. After work on Thursday, the day before Halloween, was the time we chose for it because of how quickly the pumpkins grow mold here, even when outside in the shade. We had someone over who has been helping with the boys, and she was delighted to help Adam carve his giant pumpkin into a cat, and Aaron and I got to work on the bat design he picked.

The both came out beautifully, but I’m glad I didn’t give in to their request to carve any more, because as expected, the adults did the vast majority of the work. Still, we had fun and the boys were enthusiastic throughout the whole process.

And then it was Halloween! MJ was home for Halloween and donned a Zoo Keeper costume, since he’d be herding around a cat and a bat all evening as we trick-or-treated. I went with a witch costume, and joked we were going with the classics this year. Our old au pair and current au pair joined us for the evening as well, which was really nice. We stay always stay in our neighborhood for Halloween, which gives us an opportunity to see and meet neighbors.

We also have several neighbors who go all out with Halloween decorations and activities, some of which are scarier than others. And enough of our neighbors in general participate in the holiday so the walking:candy ratio is perfect for us.

The boys got to bed much later than expected as they raided their candy bowls, enjoyed handing out candy to other kids who came later, and generally got to enjoy spending time with Gaby and Rebeca. It was a great night.

But first, we decorated! I’ve been putting up Halloween lights for the past few years, and the boys have enjoyed putting up their own decorations that they buy at the dollar store or Target. Adam asked for a smoke machine and a lot more elaborate decorations, but he’s still only six years old and if carving pumpkins is any indication, I’d be the one doing all the work 10 minutes after he got bored with it, hah! Maybe in a few years.

The first Saturday was spent at Joan’s Farm and Pumpkin Patch in Livermore, which we arrived at just after they opened at 10AM. I’d been searching for an autumn activity with the boys that had the right mix of activities that we’d all be happy, but also wouldn’t be overly expensive. This place checked all the boxes. It was a little bit of a drive out to Livermore, but I got wristbands for the boys so they had unlimited activities, from a giant bouncy slide to pumpkin bowling, a corn maze, and hayrides.

They got to visit with animals on the farm, and pick out pumpkins, with Adam naturally picking one of the largest he could find. We even managed to get lunch there, which both the boys actually ate, before running off to activities again.

Back in town, we grabbed dinner at one of our favorite local restaurants before heading off to our evening activity: A dinosaur-themed unhaunted house at a local nature center! Parking was a bit of a nightmare and I don’t think we scheduled enough time to enjoy the Halloween carnival, but these are good things to know for next year. The unhaunted house was fun, with Aaron getting to pet some animals and all of us learning a bit about dinosaurs and their descendants.

The carnival portion was pretty cute, with various little stands set up where the boys could play games and then their favorite activity, jumping around in a big inflatable bubble with balloons floating all around.

We spent the next day closer to home. After morning swim class, the boys helped me replace the artificial grass in the back yard that we have covering a section of tile (mostly broken) and slab concrete we have out back. It’s not the solution I want for the back yard, it feels quite wasteful to change out the fake grass every few years, but until we can plan for a nicer back yard, this is a good middle ground to making it usable.

Adam also helped me rearrange the furniture and play things out there, which has all been a nice change. What was not a nice change was discovering wasps in our big umbrella out there, but fortunately the cooler weather seems to be dispensing with them naturally.

This year for Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we also finally got to attend services in-person! With chaotic young kids, and then last year with some colds sweeping through the house, we were glad to finally take advantage of this opportunity. We started small, by just attending the afternoon family services for both holidays, but it was nice to be back in-person for the holidays, and to start meeting people. We’ve also started on our path to get the boys to weekly religious school there, which we’re all looking forward to.

We also enjoyed apples and honey around Rosh Hashanah, and Aaron helped me make a round challah, which actually came out quite lovely this year!

Celebrations continued when I returned from a work trip as we went over to the synagogue for a young children event for Sukkot. They had a big sukkah set up, and in collaboration with PJ library had a bunch of activities arranged, from a story time to crafts and coloring, followed by lunch.

Kids also got to wave the lulav and etrog with our Rabbi, which Aaron took part in.

The kids were pretty excited about Sukkot and are really interested in building our own sukkah. Timing of my work travel this year made it impossible, but maybe we’ll see what we can do next year.

And unrelated to the holidays but related to family, MJ’s Uncle Dick and his wife were visiting San Francisco recently while on a cruise. Squeezed right between my work trip and one MJ had to leave for, we met them for a lovely dinner on the Embarcadero. I had only met MJ’s uncle once, and he’d never met the boys, so it was nice to get together, even if the boys were on the tired side and were mostly glued to TV on their phones.

Afterwards, we dropped them back at the cruise terminal where the boys were jealous that they got to sleep on a boat, but they did perk up a bit post-meal and were able to be a little social. I’m glad we were able to conclude the evening on that note.

It was the first time I’d been to see a movie with just Adam, and all decked out in our matching Wallace and Gromit accessories we had a lot of fun together.

The next day Aaron was like a new person (one day cold?) and we were able to keep our whole family plans to head up to San Francisco for MUNI Heritage Weekend! This is one of our favorite events of the year, and we try to go every year. The booths are always a delight, and we picked up some MUNI merch (puzzle! socks!).

This year we didn’t get to ride the boat tram (lines were excessively long) but we did get to ride on the Melbourne car up to Pier 39 where we requested to get off so we could do some pier adventures and have lunch.

There we also got to see car 578, “America’s oldest passenger streetcar still on the active roster of an urban transit agency, and one of the oldest operating electric streetcars in the world,” as it was turning around at the Pier. And then the boat tram while we were waiting for a regular street car to take us back to the plaza.

Unfortunately we didn’t go on any bus rides this year, but we did get to see the vintage buses!

The following weekend we managed to get to our local Legoland! We were told about this place by our first au pair, Claudia, who invited us to come down with her husband. We’ve been meaning to go with them for ages, so it was great to finally go. It’s located in a mall in Millbrae, and it’s not huge but we had no problem spending over three hours there. Lots of little building stations, they were doing Halloween-themed activities throughout, and the boys enjoyed everything.

They also had a Creative Workshop where we got to build witches!

We did the little “train” ride 3 or 4 times, and enjoyed the 4D theater for a fun little movie.

I was particularly enamored with the center feature of the place where they built a bunch of local landmarks from all around the bay area, the central part being San Francisco, including a BART train.

It was a fun day, and now the boys keep asking to go back. It’s definitely on our list!

The Castro Valley Fall Festival took place on September 6th and 7th. The first day the boys got to visit a petting zoo, but the day was cut a bit short by a kiddo stomach ache.

We went back for day two so we could walk through the whole festival, and the boys enjoyed going on a bungee bouncing thing.

Last week I was able to sneak out for an evening to go see Hamilton at our local theater. The 10th anniversary release was really fun to see, even if I didn’t quite anticipate spending 3 hours on it. It included an introduction with interviews from the original cast reflecting on the experience and anniversary, and also included a 10 minute intermission. It all took me back to where I was 10 years ago, and just how much I loved the whole Hamilton experience as I fell in love with the soundtrack, and finally saw the show live in San Francisco.

The boys have continued swim classes, which are going well but they changed pools on us recently, which means we don’t have the fun opportunity to see an Amtrak train zooming through on a perfectly timed journey to the pool now. Fortunately, on our last Sunday at the last pool we got to see it, and the pool they moved us to is actually a lot nicer and isn’t much further away.

Day to day there’s been a lot of playing with our new cat, Zara, and doing little tasks around the house. The other day Adam helped me vacuum out the van so we could install a new all-weather mat in the back. MJ and I have been going through some paperwork to continue our organization project and clear out some of our storage areas.

I’ve also been trying, unsuccessfully, to resurrect one of our old servers. We have a couple small systems that we used for backups and media when we lived in San Francisco, but over time the raid arrays on those spinning disks died and the systems failed. I figured that bringing them back up would just be a matter of replacing the disks and doing some reconfiguration, but it’s been dreadful. VGA output appeared to have failed on one of the mother boards, so I moved everything over to the other system and then I was getting inconsistent booting even after I sorted out UEFI. I finally got it booted and the RAID5 array built, rebooted it, and VGA this system isn’t working, even in POST. Argh. Why? I guess it’s my fault trying to bring back old x86 systems. Even if it had worked, it wouldn’t be satisfying like getting my RISC-V SBC going a few months ago. Right now it’s just a disappointing time sink. I might try a few more things, but I’m close to giving up and starting again with new hardware and a more modern disk configuration.

And while I’m talking about old hardware, I hauled out my never-used Mycroft Mark I device recently. That’s been causing me a lot of headaches too, but at least there’s more novelty to it. I’ll write up a full blog post about it if I ever do get it running with something interesting. Right now I might be facing some hardware issues AND a system that’s simply too old to run some of the home assistant software that lives in the forks designed for it. I guess I’ll see how it goes. Computers, man.

Our adventure to welcome a new cat has been in the works for a while. At first we weren’t ready, then life was just incredibly busy with life with two young children. But the desire to have a pet again was growing. We had to work out some details, like how we’d handle our summers in Philly (where does the litter box go at the townhouse?) and generally the additional load of caring for a pet when our lives are already so full. But the solutions trickled in and the benefits and positives finally won out.

And then when we were in Philly over the summer, the boys fell in love with a cat they saw at Petco. They went back and saw her several times, she was a very friendly tortoiseshell cat, but we couldn’t really adopt a cat across the country. Still, when we came home the boys insisted that they wanted a tortoiseshell cat. The search was on.

Our first encounter was via a local pet adoption agency, Nobody’s Perfekt Dogs and Cats. They are an incredibly dedicated group of volunteers who rehabilitate, foster, and find homes for animals that had some rough spots in their past. Given that we have two rambunctious boys, we didn’t think any of their animals, many recovering from trauma, would be a good fit, but they were local and they also have a shop of gently used pet items so we stopped by. We had a great conversation with their volunteers, and learned about a tortoiseshell cat in foster care who we were able to meet a couple weeks later, over Labor Day weekend. Alas, in spite of warming up to Aaron a little, we determined she was just too timid and scared for our noisy home, and we hope she finds a better fit, somewhere more peaceful.

But I was ready for this potential outcome. I had scoured shelters ahead of time and found a tortoiseshell-tabby (torbie) at the East Bay SPCA in Dublin, it was Zara!

I was cautiously optimistic since her listing called her friendly, but you really never know how cats are going to react to young children, especially a 4 and 6 year old who aren’t used to engaging with cats. But she surprised us all. As soon as Adam and I went into her room, she rubbed up against his legs, and he was instantly in love. Aaron took a little more getting used to because he was a bit more… excited, but even him she seemed fine with. And both MJ and I found her to be lovely. We filled out the paperwork, and brought her home!

We’re her second family, and her first family is the one that named her. Alas, we were told they surrendered her with the reason that she was an indoor/outdoor cat, but would disappear for days at a time outside, and that wasn’t working for them. With us she’s indoor-only, so we should be able to avoid that particular hurdle, unless she gets out. We’re looking at AirTags as a solution to her potentially escaping and disappearing, but that assumes she’s willing to wear a collar.

We did discover a benefit of being her second family through the same SPCA is that while we brought home an 11 month old, the SPCA had her kitten picture!

We kept her in the laundry room for the first 24 hours to get her used to us and the smells of a new home. We took turns going in and visiting with her, but also giving her some space to adjust. We built a brand new cat tree for her, which joined her in the laundry room that first day.

She was eager to explore though, and settled in pretty quickly once she had the run of the house on Monday (Labor Day) and we moved the cat tree into the family room. We had a pretty laid back day welcoming our new cat to our home, and the boys had a lot of fun playing with her.

She’s very people-centric, always wanting to be nearby someone. As soon as Gaby leaves to pick up Aaron from school, she comes into my office. When Aaron comes home, she’s off to play with him. Over night she’s been sleeping in our bedroom, after we extract her from the new game of trying to hide out with the boys to sleep with them. Temperament-wise, she can be very snuggly when she wants to be, but will let us know with a little bite or a swat if she has had enough. We do need to work on her scratching, since she likes to dig on carpets and there are a few heirloom chairs downstairs that she’s taken a particular liking to. I think that’s a surmountable challenge though.

A couple days in I noticed some blood on our bed, and a thorough inspection caused me to discover a wounded pad on her back right foot. I can’t imagine she got it with us, so I think it was a pre-existing wound that opened up with her getting to run and jump around a big house. I took her to the vet, which she wasn’t happy with me about, and was instructed to keep it clean by using some medical wipes they gave me twice a day. She isn’t super happy with me about that either. And unfortunately, I’m not sure it’s healing as much as we’d like to see at this stage, she has a follow-up at the vet appointment this Friday to see what our next steps are.

But back to the good things! The boys have been really great with her. Adam is very protective, and she’s been snuggling up on his lap while he plays video games. Aaron is learning how to be more gentle with her, but she’s tolerating the learning curve, especially since he’s the most fun human to play with around here. One of the most adorable things so far has been the boys building her little forts and beds, and then Zara actually sleeping in them!

MJ and I are totally in love with her too. She’s made a great addition to our family. And I hope she forgives me about the vet stuff soon.