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Open Mainframe Summit 2022

Wednesday, Oct 12th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

On September 21st I headed to Philadelphia for my first in-person event since March 2020, the Open Mainframe Summit! The Linux Foundation kicked off this event in 2020, and it swiftly went virtual for two years. This means it was the first time this event had been in person too. Masks and either vaccination or a negative COVID-19 test were required to attend, which made me feel much safer about this being the first event I went back to. Kudos to the event team for holding firm on this requirement at this phase of the pandemic.

The day before the event I also had the pleasure of meeting with our VP, Meredith Stowell, who was in town for an Open Mainframe Project board meeting prior to the event. One of the things that I’ve found so valuable about my role and the teams that I’m on is not only how accessible our leadership chain is, but that they go out of their way to check in with individual contributors. I’ve worked on a lot of great teams, but it’s really transformational to work for an organization where you feel directly supported from the top down.

My participation in this event took several forms. Early on, I was part of the program committee that helped select the talks. I was also managing IBM’s sponsor presence for the third year in a row. While I always had a nice cohort of folks helping me put together materials and things for the virtual booth, it took a lot more logistical work to get everything there in-person. Finally, I gave a talk on the Linux Distributions Working Group with my group co-creator Sarah Julia Kriesch and also participated in a mentorship keynote panel.

As we led up to the event, I helped get a booth schedule put together for IBMers who I knew would be on-site to help, and made sure I had my Raspberry Pi 400 all loaded up with our sustainability demo to show off at the booth.

The morning of the event I loaded everything up into my backpack, a small suitcase, and the monitor tucked away in its box, and took the train down to the city. The background banner for the booth was all set up when I arrived and came out beautifully, and with a few extra pairs of hands helping out, we had the booth set up in no time.

And then the event kicked off! I won’t dive deep into technology here, since this is a more personal reflection, except to say that the technical sessions I was able to attend were top-notch and I think we did a really nice job selecting a diverse set of speakers, across various metrics. The keynotes felt approachable by everyone in the audience, which is hard to pull off for a technical conference, but the Linux Foundation does a really good job making sure various perspectives are captured in the community. Perhaps the most personally valuable one to me came from Cynthia Coupé who spoke on “Neurodivergency and the Mainframe: A Parallel Universe”. I have a loved one who recently received a neurodivergent diagnosis, and as I learn to support them I’ve learned a considerable amount about myself, and my own peculiarities. What I loved about her message though was that we need to be building inclusive spaces where we accept and celebrate our differences because of the different types of value we all can bring. I know I have a tendency to get hyper focused and excited about things, but it turns out that it has served me quite well in my career, as long as I had a team to support me and a community that’s forgiving of quirkiness.

The biggest take-away for me at this event was meeting people. This has always been true of in-person conferences, if all we went for was learning, we could arguably do that by viewing a carefully curated playlist of talks from YouTube. It was particularly important this time though. I joined IBM less than a year before the pandemic, which means most of my time spent in the mainframe space has been online. There are more people I hadn’t met in my immediate sphere than those I had, and it was a tremendous opportunity to connect on a personal level, and have some candid conversations that I otherwise have not had the opportunity for.

There were a lot of selfies.

A lot!

It was of course a pleasure meeting and doing a talk with Sarah. Her passion for openSUSE on IBM zSystems and LinuxONE inspires everyone around her, and she’s being doing a lot of great advocacy to our broader Linux and open source communities. I think our talk together went quite well, and it was nice to sync up with people there at the summit to discuss what some of our future plans should be.


With Sarah!

I also had a lovely time on the keynote mentorship panel on day 2. I have worked with Michael Friesenegger of SUSE extensively over the years, so it was a pleasure to finally meet in person and doubly-so to be on a panel with him. It was also nice hearing from people after the panel, so thanks to everyone who paused to chat with me about it.

In all, great event, and it’s invigorated me in a way that I forgot in-persons had the power to do. I have new ideas for the projects and working groups I’m part of, and excited about improvements we can make to create an even more exciting event next year.

Filed under: events, mainframes, philadelphia, tech

We finally made it back to Philly

Saturday, Oct 8th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

We celebrated the arrival of 2020 with nearly one year old Adam and our extended family at my father-in-law’s house. There were hats and fireworks on TV and simply enjoying each other’s company. A couple days later we flew back to California and had no idea what 2020 would bring. Turns out, it would bring a pandemic that meant that we couldn’t return to Philadelphia and see our family for over two and a half years.

So, with an additional kid in tow, we were grateful to finally make our way back to our townhouse in Philadelphia in September.

The first hurdle was the flight with two little ones and all their stuff. We spent our spare moments for over a week making lists, getting everything ready, and packing for the trip. It was exhausting. I prepared myself for the worst on the flight, and while it’s tiring to entertain a couple kids awake and trapped in their plane seats for five hours, they were reasonably happy for most of the flight. I’m sure it helps that part of the travel prep was making sure they had lots of things to do, videos loaded on their phones, and way too many snacks.

Once we safely arrived, two hours late thanks to flight delays that are the norm now, we spent two weeks there. Our goals for the trip were to visit with as many friends and family as we could, and to “open up the house” which meant taking care of whatever came up, planned and unplanned, as we settled in. The tasks ended up being:

  • Get rid of the hole in the rough-in bathroom downstairs that allowed a mouse to get into the house
  • …and clean up after the mouse
  • Replace the garbage disposal, which inexplicably stopped working
  • Power wash the deck, and key spots on the house
  • Put up some gates to prevent the kids from falling down the stairs and/or leaving the house

We had a large gated play yard in the living room designed for life with a baby, so it was weird coming back with two kids, neither of whom is a baby anymore. The gated area was useful for keeping the toys contained, but that was about it. We also didn’t exactly have a plan for where little Aaron would sleep. We had always assumed that the boys would be sharing a room by now, but with Aaron’s poor sleep schedule, we haven’t made the leap. As a result, we shifted our plans several times, and Aaron ended up sleeping in a bathroom (it was safe!) for a few nights before we cleared out an unfinished room downstairs that we converted into a little room for him.

I also quickly discovered that our door-free home office is not optimal for serious business calls or virtual presentations with the kids playing above me. Which leads me to the fact that while MJ was handling the majority of the above tasks, I was working overtime for a launch event, virtual conference, and in-person conference, all of which I’d been preparing for over the past couple months. I was considerably more stressed and crunched for time than I would have liked on this trip, and I hope that next time we’re in town I can actually find some time to just sit and relax and enjoy our home.

The lack of downtime also reminded me how much I’ve changed since we bought the townhouse. The goal of the townhouse was always so we’d have a home base to easily come back to as we raised our family. MJ’s family in the neighborhood could see the kids grow up, visits to my family that’s spread up and down the east coast would be easier. But for the first several years of having the townhouse it was during our long child-free existence. We had projects, but the chore overhead was nothing like our home in California, which meant I had a lot more time to relax, catch up on some of my open source work, write, and read. The vast difference with this trip was shocking in a way I didn’t expect, and still haven’t quite come to terms with. For now, I am focusing on how much joy our little ones bring me, and in my moments of pause, I remind myself that this very young age is a season, and they won’t always be so in need of my constant attention. My work is personally fulfilling and many of my hobbies can wait.

Ultimately, the trip was successful by our simple metrics. We managed to see several family members, and shared a couple meals with friends. The townhouse is now in reasonable shape for our next visit, which is good because our next visit won’t be until the chilly weather around the winter holidays. I wish I had taken more pictures though, we really didn’t get enough, and the boys and their cousins won’t be young forever.

MJ and I also took the time for a date night at The Continental Midtown, and we met up with some other families at an au pair event at Washington Crossing, where the boys had a lot of fun running around.

I got to have my Philly food favorites: pizza, buffalo chicken cheesesteaks, hoagies, east coast Chinese food, and some really great Italian food.


East coast shrimp egg rolls and sweet & sour chicken, nothing like it in the west!

My beloved cannoli

Work-wise, I completed my virtual conference, with much success!

And then I spent time getting ready for the second week, when I went down to the city for the Open Mainframe Summit, which I’ll share more about at a later time. It was also a resounding success, and as a smaller event in a familiar city, it felt like the perfect way for me to ease my way back into conference travel. The key components of preparation were logistical, and making sure my Raspberry Pi 400 was up to the task.

In addition to the obvious, what I think I gained the most from this trip was a fullness of heart I hadn’t felt since before the pandemic. As an introvert, I would have imagined two and a half years at home would be bliss, but even I truly missed people. It was tiring seeing so many people, but I’m grateful we did this time, because it was so nice to reconnect. Now as the COVID threat starts to fade, I’m eager to get back to seeing more of my friends and family.

Filed under: family, kids, life, philadelphia, travel

Cake, cars, and work

Friday, Sep 16th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

As I mentioned in my previous post, we were sick a lot in August. But there were days here and there that weren’t so difficult.

In the middle of the month, we were all doing a lot better and attended the wedding of our first au pair. She met her now husband right before the pandemic began, and as we all worked through the challenges of the pandemic, we were grateful that she had someone within our bubble to spend time with. We were then thrilled to see that their relationship bloomed and were honored to not only attend their wedding, but for Adam to be their ring-bearer. The event also marked the first time we went to any sort of life event since the pandemic began, and though we were somewhat apprehensive about it, everything went really well and we were comfortable with the whole affair. Adam carried out his duties and little Aaron had a wonderful time dancing when the floor opened up. The evening wrapped up with something Adam had been talking about for weeks: cake!

That same week I went into the office for the first time since the pandemic began, there was cake there too. What prompted the visit was the obvious seeing colleagues in person, but also to celebrate the release of the IBM z16 with a general release event. Wwe all enjoyed balloons, got t-shirts, and spent time chatting about our work and the launch. It was nice putting some names to faces, as there are some new hires since the pandemic began and I hadn’t been able to meet everyone in person. It was also nice to get to work in my office for a few hours, and make sure it was still there! What wasn’t there? An opportunity to charge our new hybrid car. Every single one of the EV charging stations was in use when I arrived. There are dozens, more than the last time I was in the office, but it seems we’ve all bought EVs or hybrids during the pandemic!


Unfortunately, whatever cold thing I had got bad again after this week of fun, and it wasn’t until late August that we all felt well enough to resume our regular weekend routine of farmer’s market, parks, and outdoor dining at our favorite lunch spots.

The Castro Valley Cruise Night landing at the end of the month was a nice evening out for us. I get endless joy out of living downtown in our little town. I’ve mentioned before that it made the transition from living in downtown San Francisco much easier, since I can still walk to a coffee shop and stores. But we have such a nice collection of festivals throughout the year too. Like the annual car show, it’s a fun opportunity to see a lot of classic cars, but instead the boulevard is open to traffic all the vintage and exotic cars are driving around, with people lining the boulevard to socialize and enjoy the sights.

Over Labor Day weekend we got back to our old dining routine as we all started feeling better and the weather warmed up. Then on Monday it really warmed up, too much! So we went to San Francisco for a morning, where it was a little cooler. Our only plans were to take a train ride (BART!) and then take a walk to let the boys enjoy the waterfront. We succeeded, but it definitely wasn’t cool enough, and we all felt a bit overheated as we settled down for lunch. It was nice to get to the city though, we hadn’t made a journey like that as a family before.


I welcomed in September with a promotion at work. And a lot of work. It’s a busy time of year for us with the annual event my team works on and compounded this year with the first in-person Open Mainframe Summit, and a launch event for the next IBM LinuxONE to prepare for. I am not sure I fully thought through adding in our first visit back to Philadelphia to coincide with all of this, at first glance it made sense because the summit is also my first conference in-person again and it’s in Philadelphia. What it turned into was a bit of a perfect storm of busy and stress, but I started writing this post on a flight with both kids chomping away on snacks next to me, so I guess I’m not doing too bad.

Which brings me to this, the visit to Philadelphia! It’s our first trip back to the townhouse since we rang in 2020 with New Years with family. We haven’t seen anyone in almost 3 years, so most of our family and friends back east haven’t even met little Aaron, indeed, they didn’t even see me while I was pregnant with him. It’s wild how much things have changed, and I didn’t quite realize it until we started getting ready for this trip, now with two kids. Plus, it’s a lot more to carry. It’s nice to be here, but work isn’t slowing down any and I sure have the next week cut out for me.

Filed under: castro valley, family, kids, life, san francisco

August has been cough, I mean tough?

Tuesday, Aug 30th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

I’ve been sick.

Admittedly, this has characterized most of 2022, since Adam started going to preschool. We had a nice little break of a month and a half during summer break, but then we got COVID. Once we recovered, Adam came down with a cold with fever at the end of July after going back to school, which I swiftly caught. On August 7th I lost my ability to smell and taste, and it took a full 10 days for it to start returning. After a couple weeks my low-grade fever passed and I was well enough to go to a wedding! I even went into the office for a day! But then my symptoms crashed back in. Antibiotics didn’t help. Prescription cough medicine didn’t touch the cough. I’m grateful that a chest x-ray didn’t show anything concerning, but it didn’t help get me answers. On Friday I did a virtual visit with a walk-in clinic and got a pair of inhalers to use twice a day, and a cough medicine that’s actually helping.

The doctor I saw on Friday doesn’t believe the proximity to a COVID infection is a coincidence. In spite of my bout with COVID seeming somewhat mild at the time, he said it’s likely that it weakened my already asthmatic lungs. Since I’m predisposed to lingering coughs, it came as no surprise that I’ve gotten so sick from “just a cold” while others in my house recovered quickly. Fortunately, he also believes that I should recover from my weakened lung state within six months or so. The failure of my senses of smell and taste to fully returned seems to also be in line with longer-term impact post-COVID, since I’ve now had several people tell me that theirs has come and gone a few times since their infection. In the meantime, the hope is that the inhalers will patch me up enough so that I can finally feel better.

Aside from the misery that is having COVID and then being hit with a month-long cold, it’s also a frustrating situation to be in life-wise. Every evening I’m tired and feeling extra sick, and do the bare minimum to keep the house going and our cat taken care of, and then I go to bed. No time for hobbies, very little time for reading or TV, and no time for the million things that I’d like to do around the house. When little Aaron outgrew his 18-24M clothes this month, it was a multi-week process to get the 2T clothes rotated in (dig clothes out of storage, wash them, pull out the 18-24M from the dresser, wait for laundry to spit out the remaining 18-24M clothes, pack them up, pack them away. Oh! Socks! Go through those too.). And suddenly both boys needed shoes. It’s made for a much more chaotic home experience than I’d like, and extra tasks like routinely sweeping through closets and cabinets to reorganize aren’t even being attempted right now.

I’ve also felt bad about how the kids are experiencing this summer. It was bad enough that our COVID precautions preclude us from much socialization and indoor activities, but while sick we’ve even had to curb many of the outdoor ones. I simply haven’t had the energy to take the boys out a lot, or do a lot of things with them. Even our weekend routine of outdoor dining has been disrupted, since we obviously don’t want to go out while sick. This past weekend I rallied the energy to do a few things, but I am also concerned I assuaged my guilt at the expense of my health, and I probably should have been resting more.

I’m feeling well enough to write this on a Tuesday evening instead of going straight to bed, so maybe things are improving, or maybe it’s just that new cough medicine.

Filed under: health

Our house fell to COVID-19

Monday, Jul 25th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

We’re not yet sure how it happened. We were masking indoors, avoiding indoor dining and crowded areas, and not traveling. Still, on a Saturday evening a few weeks ago our au pair started feeling sick and took a COVID test. It was positive. MJ and I immediately ones of our own, his was positive, mine was negative. As we sat with this knowledge, it weighed heavy. We spent over two years exercising caution, and just two weeks after getting the boys their first vaccine dose, we got infected.

As it turned out, our infections appear to have been relatively mild and swept through quickly, with only some lingering fatigue. Our au pair was probably the sickest with traditional COVID symptoms. MJ had his fatigue and headache symptoms the longest. I got away with just five days of headache, fatigue, and sore neck, but it was enough to knock me out of all but a couple hours of work per day that week. Adam and Aaron didn’t seem to get sick at all, in spite of us all being in the house together sharing germs. It’s unclear if they were just asymptomatic, or if their single dose of vaccine two weeks prior protected them from infection entirely. In the end, it probably doesn’t matter. With negative COVID tests from adults, when the time came to clear Adam to go back to preschool we finally tested them and they were negative.

I’m grateful the boys didn’t end up sick, but that fortune also meant we had a one year old and a three year old bouncing off the walls while their trio of caretakers were sick, and we couldn’t go to parks or playgrounds to burn off energy. They watched more TV than normal when we were the most sick, and I rallied my energy to bring them out to the backyard to play a couple times. But we also couldn’t do our typical weekend outings for two weeks in a row, which I know was incredibly disappointing to them.

As for the adults, I think to some extent we’ve grown accustomed to hermit life. We still go out to pick up food and get groceries, but the added level of stay-at-home that full quarantine required was not a real hardship. The most difficult part was figuring out what services to use for grocery and take-out deliveries, and coordinating with restaurants we’re friendly with to let us pay with a credit card over the phone and pop it in the trunk of the car. As far as difficulty level goes, even while navigating a headache the process of selecting groceries while resting on the couch barely ranks.

Our eating habits did change some. We made a big dent in the food that had been collecting in our freezer by having a half dozen meals cooked at home, which is unusual for us. We prepared tacos, sausages, ravioli, and bao buns, and finally finished the brisket and turkey leftovers we had in the freezer. It was nice to know that we can get away with eating at home if the need arises, and to not have to go out and pick up food all the time. I didn’t enjoy the additional dirty dishes load though, especially with the level of fatigue I was experiencing. The kitchen sink was getting pretty basic triage for several days while the pots and pans piled up.


Taco night!

Why yes, that is leftover turkey from Thanksgiving

We had to delay the second vaccine for the boys by a few weeks so they’re well outside the infection zone, but still landing within the guidelines for vaccine spacing. Thankfully we were cleared quickly enough so that an outpatient procedure I’m having done this week won’t need to be rescheduled. And if there is any long-term impact of this infection on any of us, we don’t know about it yet, and we’re all doing much better now. I’ve been back at work for a full week, and the house is even recovering from the chaotic mess it had descended into.

It still feels a little disappointing to have dodged it for so long, and finally succumb. But with restrictions falling by the wayside, it was probably only a matter of time. We caught it during a major wave here in the bay area, so our basic precautions simply weren’t enough and we got unlucky. Thankfully, the hospitals we sufficiently staffed and available, there are many treatments out there now, and the vaccines that we all got probably prevented us from getting sicker.

Perhaps most importantly, our diligence in not becoming infection vectors ourselves protected everyone around us, and likely saved lives by helping control the spread. With that in mind, I’m still wearing my N95 mask in grocery stores until it seems safe to do otherwise. It’s not much of an inconvenience, and it’s still not worth taking the risk.

Filed under: family, health, life

Our weekend routine, car seats, and vaccines

Friday, Jul 22nd, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

Life with young kids is always changing. It feels like we struggle to plan anything more than a few months out because their preferences change, or we discover someone gets car sick, or some new COVID wave sweeps through. Still, we did manage to fall into a nice weekend routine these past few months that we’re all enjoying.

Saturday morning MJ gets up with the kids so I can have one morning where I sleep until 7:30, at which point I make breakfast for everyone. Around 9 I load up the boys in the stroller and walk them over to the local farmer’s market. From there, we may stop at a garage sale if there’s one within easy walking distance. Then we pile into the car to head out to lunch outside our favorite cafe where they know us, before heading home to put the boys down for their naps. After naps, we play, do art, maybe watch some baseball until dinner. Then perhaps a walk around the neighborhood to burn off excess energy of the day before the bedtime routine.

Sunday I’m up with the boys and MJ joins us around 7:30 for breakfast, then playing inside for a while. By 10 we’re either walking to a local park, or going to one a bit further afield in the car. From there, we go to lunch at our favorite local family restaurant, where they know to set up an outside table for us, even on gloomy days. Then it’s home for naps, and the day concludes much the same way as Saturday did.

I write this all down as a snapshot in time for us. While these aren’t activity-packed weekends, and there are weekends when we do special events or outings, they are hugely satisfying for us. They’re also somewhat tiring, as we wrangle a 1.5 and 3.5 year old from place to place. But it’s also been a time of discovery for our little family as we learn what the boys love and tolerate, and dislike, as we walk around town and talk to them.

The weekend of Father’s Day last month was one weekend when we mixed things up a bit. On Saturday afternoon we attended the Castro Valley Car Show, which had been sidelined for a couple years due to the pandemic.

Sunday was spent with donuts for dad, some gifts, and then our standard Sunday routine that included a walk to the park by the library and then a nice brunch.

In more general life things, with little Aaron’s 18 month doctors appointment we learned he had rapidly approached outgrowing the infant car seat. We had to do some shopping, and ended up buying the same seat that Adam has. Now our SUV has a pair of toddler seats! The biggest challenge with this was that in order for a 3rd adult to fit in the car, we would put the infant seat in the base after the third adult climbed in the back. Fortunately, I discovered that by putting the passenger’s seat all the way forward, I can squeeze in around the installed toddler seat and sit between them, even if the space is a bit snug! It means that we can further delay the minivan purchase, which is good since availability for new cars still isn’t great.

In more exciting news, the boys had their first COVID-19 vaccine! I can’t begin to describe how heart-wrenching the approval process for children under 5 has been this past year. So many “almost there” moments and disappointments. I was thrilled when the approvals finally landed last month, and spent an hour on the phone with the scheduling desk once appointments opened. We got in on the first Thursday it was available!

The process went very smoothly and neither of them had an immediate reaction, though Adam did have a minor skin reaction a week later that we got checked out and cleared. They even booked our next appointment 4 weeks out when we checked in. While I wish this had all happened sooner, it is nice to know that our plans to travel this autumn will happen with the boys fully vaccinated.

Filed under: castro valley, events, family, kids, life

A night away

Tuesday, Jul 19th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

As a parent, you’re frequently told to take time for self-care. There’s a reason for it: it is legitimately important, but it’s really, really hard to do. I value my sense of self and identity beyond my children, but I still put them before me. They are totally dependent upon us for everything, and I love them to pieces!

That said, the pandemic has put a real strain on me. I don’t have the help around the house I expected. I’m no longer traveling for work. I barely get time alone. As much as I love my kids, I am an introvert, and time alone is tremendously important to my well-being.

So I recently decided to take a couple days off from work and go to a nearby resort for a night, all by myself.

Due to some weird behavior with the car I was planning on taking, I ended up going with MJ’s 2000 Oldsmobile Alero on this little trip. The resort was just 30 minutes from home, so it wasn’t far, but it actually ended up being a really pleasant bonding experience for that old car and me. I have driven the car many times before, and it’s very similar to the Pontiac I owned before I moved here to California, so it was a car I was comfortable with. Still, getting it gassed up, a car wash, and then a lovely journey out to Livermore was nice.

It was weird to be driving a car without any cameras, or any of the other fancy features that cars have today. I’m happy to say that I still know how to drive without all that, and it’s still a fun car to drive. I’m now taking it out regularly, and I’ve already joked with MJ that it will be the “old car” that Adam and I fix up some day as a hobby project when he’s a teenager.

But on to my trip! I got some cookies and stopped for lunch, and at 1PM I arrived at the resort for an early check-in. I spent the first couple hours just being lazy around the suite I booked, a glorious indulgence I hadn’t had the opportunity for in ages.

In the late afternoon I explored the grounds, spent some time by the pool.

They had a complementary “wine and snacks” tray, that I had around 5PM. I skipped the wine because I wanted a sober time away, but I did have a soda, which I hadn’t had in a long time. That evening, I grabbed some take-out sushi and enjoyed a book in the rose garden.

The choice of book was somewhat amusing. I had been meaning to read Colossus since I picked up the trilogy last year, but my to-read list is quite long. Still, I decided this night away was a nice opportunity to finally dig into it. I didn’t realize that I’d be reading it just a couple miles away from the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory, home to one of the fastest supercomputers in the world, and which is run by the US government. Now, the Sierra supercomputer is a good computer and couldn’t have the plot trajectory that Colossus had, but it was still an amusing coincidence.

I spent the rest of the evening reading and catching up on watching TV, something I haven’t been able to spend much time doing. I brought along my Nintendo Switch, my personal laptop, and some other little crafty things, but they stayed packed away in my bag, maybe next time. I was able to go to sleep blissfully early, and woke up to an enjoyable breakfast on the patio.

Before my checkout at 11AM, I spent more time reading and did one more visit to the hot tub.

In all, a beautiful time away that allowed me to unwind a bit and sleep responsibility-free for a night, which is precisely what I needed.

I still have to work on the day to day things that will help me feel balanced and recharged. I no longer have the luxury of time that I did when we were child-free so I’ve had to pause and learn what activities inspire and recharge me, and what ones feed into my feelings of being drained or unhappy. I owe it to myself, but I also owe it to my kids to make sure I’m as happy and healthy as I can be.

Filed under: reflection, travel

MUNI Heritage Day 2022

Thursday, Jun 9th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

Back in 2019, Adam and I attended MUNI Heritage Weekend. He was just 9 months old, and we took BART to San Francisco to enjoy a morning of bus rides and photo opportunities. MJ joined us later for brunch on the Embarcadero.

The pandemic hit in 2020, and that put a pause on MUNI Heritage celebrations. When they announced that they’d be hosting a MUNI Heritage Day in June of 2022, I was excited! But apprehensive. My first reaction was to skip it, since we’ve continued to avoid events. Then I applied our standard threat analysis. It’s all outdoors except for rides on transit themselves. We could just go visit the plaza and climb on the vehicles there that are fully open. The biggest risk was probably the BART train ride to San Francisco and back, and if we eat lunch there in the city. As cases and hospitalizations climbed, and Alameda county took the additional step of putting back an indoor mask mandate, I got a little more nervous. But this is where the real challenge comes in. I love this event, and I thought Adam would too. As the day approached, we decided that MJ and Aaron would stay home, but Adam and I would head up together to enjoy the event for the morning.

And enjoy it, we did!

The BART ride was the first bit of excitement, it was the first time he’d been on BART since the pandemic began. But we watch the trains from our family room window all day long, and walk by the station often, so he was familiar with the concept. Getting to ride on the train was kind of a big deal.

It was also my first time bringing Adam on a big adventure without a stroller in tow, and I just brought some supplies in my own mini-backpack. That meant we walked to the BART station from our house (just a couple blocks), then walked from Embarcadero station in San Francisco over to the plaza where festivities were taking place. It wasn’t a lot of walking, but it is quite the adventure for a three year old!

We explored the plaza and visited some booths. Adam got to climb up on an old fire truck and a “cable car” that had been brought to the plaza for the event.


He even donned his mask and climbed up inside the #042 bus for a photo opp.

We decided against taking any of the loops in the buses, since they were crowded. We did get the chance to take the Zurich streetcar around the block, getting on at the museum and off at Ferry Building, where we then had lunch.


We then got to enjoy lunch outdoors at Gott’s. I was on the fence about lunch in the city because of COVID concerns, but they have redone their outdoor patio there, and in spite of the crowds for the farmers market, we felt pretty safe having lunch there.

After lunch, we made our way back to the plaza for some last minute booth visiting. The railway museum itself was too crowded for us to be comfortable with, it would have been nice if they could have brought some of the unusual merchandise out to the plaza instead of keeping it close to the crowded museum, but I guess that’s where their cash register lives! It also turns out that I already have plenty of collectible MUNI stuff, and I probably didn’t need any more this year.

In all, I was incredibly glad we went. I was also glad that we’re all feeling fine and I had a negative COVID test today. We’re not out of the woods yet.

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A birthday, an anniversary, and some house stuff

Friday, Jun 3rd, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

Adam recently concluded preschool for the school year, and toward the end he received an invitation to a pool and splash pad birthday party at a public outdoor venue. Birthday parties are a big childhood thing he’s missed out on thus far due to COVID-19, so given that it was a classmate who he was already being exposed to and the outdoor nature of the event, we decided it was safe enough to take him. The morning of the birthday we learned that the birthday boy was sick (not COVID) so couldn’t attend, but with everything ready and paid for, his mother moved forward with the party for his classmates. It was during Aaron’s nap time, so MJ stayed home with him and Adam and I drove to the next town over to attend, and we had a lovely afternoon there. Both of our boys really, really enjoy playing with water, so it was a great fit for Adam.

Both boys also enjoy books. I am certain it helps that they see me reading books and magazines a lot, and I buy them books aligned with their interests pretty frequently. They’re both used to the nightly routine that includes having books read to them. But it also means that we have a growing number of books for them, so when I saw a reading nook on sale I ordered it, and then assembled as soon as it arrived. Being 1.5 and 3.5, they do a fair amount of playing around it, but there are books in it (most of the time) and it has been used for the intended purpose of sitting and looking at books. It’s definitely the last piece of furniture we can put in the family room without taking something out, but I think it was a good choice.

We also recently got a new clothes washer and dryer. The ones we had came with the house, and while they weren’t extremely old, they were a bit troublesome. The washer would frequently go off-balance and so we could only run it on low. The dryer was just loud. It was repaired twice by me (with my YouTube co-pilot) and once professionally, but after a few months it would find a new way to be loud. It got to the point that we couldn’t run it at night, or while the boys were taking naps, which was a logistical hassle. Plus, who wants to listen to a loud dryer anyway? The new set is nice and quiet. The only downside is that I have about a month’s worthy of laundry to do because I was so eager to avoid using the old one once we had plans to replace them. That a huge amount of laundry is waiting for me this weekend.


Outside of kid and home life, MJ and I finally got to celebrate our 9th anniversary this week. Our actual anniversary is on April 28th, but we were both in the midst of a nasty cold on that date, so we decided to postpone. As colds circulated the house and other things came up, it ended up being a full month before we could plan something else, but on June 2nd we finally made it out! We stuck with our original plans of having a nice dinner at Murray Circle at Fort Baker in Sausalito. They have always had outdoor seating, it’s quiet, has amazing food, and a beautiful view of the Golden Gate Bridge. It was a beautiful night. We enjoyed our food, ordered a bottle of bubbly, and relaxed on this incredibly rare evening away from home.


My continued hope is that a vaccine is made available for the little ones soon, allowing us for more options when it comes to going out. Once we feel safer about having a rotation of babysitters we’ll be able to do more date nights together, instead of just going out once a year on our anniversary, which is what we’ve been reduced to in pandemic times. I have enjoyed the growing number of places that offer outdoor dining though. Like the rise of tele-medicine, this is one of the few silver-linings of this pandemic.

Unfortunately we’re not out of the woods yet even with general transmissibility. A mask mandate for indoor spaces went into effect again today for our county as COVID-related hospitalizations are on the rise again. We’re continuing to have fun at uncrowded outdoor events, but there’s definitely a risk analysis that happens with each one. This includes MUNI Heritage Day, which at least Adam and I will be taking the train to San Francisco to check out this weekend. I’m excited about it, we’ll be cautious, but there is definitely apprehension too.

Filed under: books, events, family, food, kids, life

Cooking together and a parade

Friday, May 27th, 2022 by pleia2 | 0 Comments

Adam and I have been doing a lot of baking lately. Sometimes it’s making Challah or banana bread from scratch on a quiet afternoon, or blueberry muffins from a mix, or just taking pre-made cookie dough out of the refrigerator and dropping it on a baking pan. Along with art, this has been a really fun “making things” activity for us to look forward to doing together, and then at the end we both end up feeling ownership for the result, making the food much more fun to eat. Plus, he is at an age where he wants to help with everything, so it’s nice to have an outlet that’s safe and ends up being an activity we can look forward to together.

Challah has been part of the larger Shabbat rituals we’ve brought back into our lives these past couple of months. We all love candles, and so Adam now looks forward to candles, bread and wine/juice together. We don’t do the actually important part of Shabbat, since we’re still not attending in-person services and we’re still treading water “work” wise over here. We do what we can, when we can, and not doing chores on a Saturday is not a challenge we’re prepared for right now. Still, we do spend Saturday together as a family, with quality time going to the farmers market, out to lunch together, and usually by spending some time outside.

Recently, we spent it at a rodeo parade! The parade in town was leading up to the annual rodeo the following weekend, which we weren’t able to attend (COVID caution, plus the kids still being quite little). The parade was a lot of fun though, and since it was just a block from home, we could easily put the boys in the stroller and walk over to watch it for about 40 minutes. From there, we walked down to our favorite brunch spot to eat a meal together. After their naps, we got to go play in the back yard with water for a while, before retiring indoors for an evening of baseball on TV.

I’ve been doing a lot of events at work lately. I hadn’t planned it this way, but it makes sense because the IBM z16 came out last month and I have done a lot of work to distill the technical features, so people keep asking me about it. It’s been nice to do a bit more speaking, I’ve really tapered off during the pandemic, and things really got slow this past winter.

It’s nice to feel satisfied at work, but I also have been making an effort to carve out some time for myself. MJ and I finally confirmed our much-delayed anniversary dinner, and will be finally celebrating it next Thursday. I also decided that a night away alone at a local resort and spa would be really good for me, so I booked a night in mid-June and also took three days off from work that week, two so I could enjoy the resort, and another to focus on some stuff at home before the weekend. In addition to being good things to do, these both give me a break to look forward to, and that’s really important right now.

Filed under: castro valley, events, family, food, kids, life
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